Do you want to know what to do when you feel like giving up?

No matter how strong each of us are, we all had a time in our lives where we thought that quitting would be a good idea. It not only would give us instant pleasure and comfort – which is what we’re all after, but more importantly, allow us to avoid the dreadful pain!

However, there seems to be a pattern: winners never give up, losers do.

One of my philosophies in life is to learn and extract as much knowledge as I possibly can from successful people: by doing so, I considerably increase my chances of succeeding.

How do they think? What do they do? What habits do they have? 

These are very important factors that can determine the quality of your life.

Today, I’ll be sharing with you the core principles and beliefs that I’ve learned from successful people that you NEED to have as well. 

By the end of this article, you’ll know exactly what you did wrong and what are some actionable steps you can take in order to turn your life around.

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Why Do You Want To Give Up?

Let’s face it: there’s only one reason that would lead you to consider giving up – you’re facing a challenge you can’t find a solution for.

Chances are that you’ve tried everything and nothing worked. So here you are, contemplating quitting.

When people say that to me, I always respond: ‘’It seems more like you’ve tried everything except what worked.’’ After all, if you did try everything, then you would have found the answer. The fact that you haven’t found it yet only means that you’ve still not exhausted all the possibilities.

The reason why most people end up throwing in the towel is that they look at the situation from the wrong perspective. By doing so, sure enough, they disempower themselves and talk themselves into giving up.

Change Your Perception

Wayne Dyer once said that,

‘’If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.’’

Instead of viewing failure as a negative thing that’s preventing you from succeeding, view it as a tool that allows you to get closer to your goals.

Although the exact number remains obscure, it’s a well-known fact that Thomas Edison failed thousands of times (presumably 10,000) before succeeding in making the light bulb.

Let’s use his story to use the tool of perception: you are Thomas Edison and you failed 3 times in your attempt of creating the light bulb. Although he didn’t know it at the time, we now know that it took him 10,000 tries to complete it. It means that in order for you to succeed in making the light bulb, you need to fail 9997 more times!

Here’s the correct, more empowering way to look at it: if I need to fail 9997 more times to get there, I’d better fail faster!

‘’I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward’’ – Thomas Edison

Can you see the difference when you make a slight adjustment in your perception and throw in a number? There’s nothing wrong with failing in this case, it’s part of the game. 

It seems a lot more feasible, in fact, this example goes to show that you cannot succeed without failing.

Of course, it’s completely impossible to guess how many times you’ll need to fail in order to succeed in whatever you’re trying to accomplish – only god knows.

However, you don’t need to know that number. In fact, the number doesn’t matter as long as you trust the process. Maybe 5 more of your attempts will lead you to success.. or maybe it will require thousands of attempts. In any case, what really matters is that you fail more and fast!

Have Faith

You must have the absolute certainty that you are going to break through no matter what. The moment uncertainty starts to creep in is when you’ll start to feel like giving up.

Unfortunately, most people become uncomfortable when it comes to having faith and trust the process: it requires to letting go of control, and many people aren’t willing to do that.

Let’s explore 4 ways that you can use to cultivate more faith in your life and solve problems better:

1 – Change Your State

Never ever try to solve a problem when you feel like a lousy human being. It’s going to translate into the questions you ask yourself to solve the problems, and sure enough, in the answers you’ll get. 

Brainstorming in an unresourceful state will never give you the answers that you need. 

Ask and you shall receive: if you’re feeling a bit down or angry for whatever reason, you’ll probably ask very unproductive, unresourceful questions such as: ‘’why does it always happen to me? ‘’ or ‘’how come I can’t solve this?’’

How do you think your brain will answer these questions?

2 – Make Problems Your Friend

Problems are generally perceived as being bothersome, unneeded and everybody hates them because it makes us uncomfortable.

However, what is a weapon can also be a great tool. What if problems meant something completely different?

It doesn’t have to be your enemy, in fact, it can even be your ally!

Have you ever overcame a problem you thought were very challenging in your life? How did you feel when you solved it? How did it make YOU change?

What’s great about problems is that it pushes us out of our comfort zone. Most people are too lazy to step out of their comfort zone by themselves, but there are always time where they MUST because of external circumstances.

Problems make us grow as they push us to do things that we’re not comfortable with.

3 – Tap Into The Power Of References

Having references in life is important as it gives us a sense of certainty. No one wants to live with fear all day long, right?

For instance, when you sit on a chair, you don’t think twice about it and you just sit because you trust it will support you. Why do you think it will support you? Because you have references in your life! In the past, you’ve sat on chairs so you know it works, although you don’t necessarily know how the chair has been built.

If you had to inspect every chair before sitting down, you’d be pretty miserable, wouldn’t you?

In the same way, consciously use references to back up the idea that you’ll eventually be rewarded if you keep going.

What’s fascinating about this process is that not only can you use past experiences to do that, but you also can leverage other people’s experiences! Who do you know that kept going even though the whole world was against them? How did they do that? What can you learn from them? How can you model them to get similar results?

Stock up on references, and start feeling faith welling up inside you.

4 – Don’t View Problems As Problems

Earlier, I’ve said that problems aren’t that big of a deal. In truth, there are no such things as problems.

I often like to use the power of comparison to remind myself that I have no problems, even when I go through tough times. Do you have a functioning body? Enough money to support your family? Then you have no problem.

Some literally lost everything they could possibly have, and yet they still found a way to persevere and be happy. You have no problems.

What you do have, though, is a challenge. No matter how trivial this word change might seem to you, it has in fact a great benefit.

We all associations certain emotions to certain words. For instance, if I were to tell you words such as ‘’genocide’’ or ‘’rape’’, then chances are I triggered a negative emotion of yours.

The same applies in this case. We often complain when it comes to problems, which conditioned our brains to associate bad emotions to this concept. For most people, a problem is a very challenging thing that requires tremendous amount of effort to overcome (money and time in some cases as well), and there are no rewards.

That’s why you need to change your vocabulary and transform it into a challenge: something that’s meant to make you grow and make you become a better version of myself.

Focus On The Solution

The main reason why most people feel stuck and powerless when they face a ‘challenge’ is because they focus too much time on it instead of focusing on the solution.

You should be spending 20% of your time on the problem and 80% of the time on the solution.

Focusing on the problem might be a good idea to analyze what went wrong, but most people unfortunately indulge in self-destructing behavior. If you focus too much on why it failed instead of how to solve the problem, you’ll never overcome it.

Destroy The Problem

I’ve learned this technique from Tony Robbins, and the idea of phrasing it this way sounded so outrageous and laughable that it actually motivated me to use it!

The fact of the matter is that most people are being hunted by the problem. They don’t prepare, and one day it gets the better of them.

What you want to do is to hunt the problem, you’re the hunter! To do so, you need to ERADICATE the problem: brainstorm out a list of +100 ways on how to deal with the problem.

Once again, we tap into the power of vocabulary. The reason I find this technique so powerful is that it gives us a sense of certainty that we can deal with the problem easily: after all, we’re going to kill him away, eradicate him, destroy him, decimate him..

Use The Power Of Anticipation

In the future, you need to anticipate what’s coming instead of being reactive. When you’re prepared, you can deal with the problem even before it arises.

On the other hand, if you’re not ready to deal with it, it’s going to overwhelm you and you’ll find yourself reacting.

My favorite question to ask myself is: ‘’what could go wrong?’’ Brainstorm all the possibilities that could lead to your downfall. Preferably in every area of your life.

Expect for the best, but plan for the worst.

Do You Now Know What To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up?

It’s time for you to apply everything you’ve learned in this article! 

Feeling like giving up is natural, everybody feels this way once in a while. However, what separates losers and average-people from successful people is their ability to endure pain for a long period of time.

Keep failing as it will move you closer to your goals!

Do you want to discover the 7 habits that made me happier, more productive and more fulfilled as well as the 10 habits that most people have that destroy their lives? CLICK HERE to get access to my guides for FREE.