Do you have a tendency to be negative?
I personnally know a lot of people that are being often negative. Unfortunately, you cannot help a person that doesn’t want to be helped.
On the other hand, the fact that YOU are HERE, means that you’re very conscious about this bad habit of yours. Being negative is not only a problem for you, but also a problem for everyone that’s around you.
Negativity is a very infectious disease, even if most people aren’t aware of it.
You don’t consider yourself as being negative? No problem, you can just keep reading this article so you can know my cure – or you can recommend this article to someone you know that has this bad tendency.
In fact, before I tell you anything, I have to challenge you on something.
Are you a negative person? This is the first thing we have to establish before we move on.
The Traits Of Negative People
Negative people bear almost always the same characteristics. I’m pretty sure you already know some of them.
I want you to thoroughly read the following lines, and want you to determine if you are or aren’t being as described. Of course, you can also compare these with someone you know.
So, let’s get started.. shall we?
Got a great idea that can potentially make you millions of dollars? Don’t tell them about it. Honestly, negative people are like dream crushers.
OK. Let’s be fair. We could sometimes call that being “down-to-earth”. I understand one should not get his hopes up over something ridiculous. However, it doesn’t mean that you need to crush this person’s idea like it’s how life works.
Negative people ALWAYS compare their life experience to other people’s projects. Clearly said, a pessimistic person will say that “you can’t be a millionaire” when THERE ARE millionaires out there, which means IT IS POSSIBLE to become a millionaire.
It’s not because you didn’t make it that someone else can’t make it.
..only focus on what’s wrong with the world
I’m a huge fan of this sentence: “what you focus on, you feel.”
After all, it’s very true. Think about someone you loved.. and lost. Or, think about your soul mate.. who’s always there for you and only want what’s best for you. See? Just by focusing on something, you can feel it. On the first exemple, you obviously felt sadness. On the second exemple, that is joy and happiness you felt, right? That’s as simple as that.
Now, here’s the problem: negative people focus on what’s negative.
OK, I got to admit. I’ve already done that. And I occasionally still do. It’s SO simple just to think about what’s wrong and feel anger, or rage. However, I NEVER let these emotions get the better of me. Once I realize I’m being negative… I quickly think of something else. What do I think about? Pretty much anything that’s NOT negative. You can think of your cat, your friends, your family, your lover, children.. as long as it makes your thoughts brighter.
The thing is.. negative people don’t do those kind of things. They keep thinking about bad things.
How can you stop being negative if your mind is being invaded by negative thoughts?
They focus so much on the negative side of things, that it becomes their reality. No matter what we’re talking about, no matter how great a person or a product is.. some people will always find something wrong to say about it. This is how negative people are.
I’m sure you know people like this. Or, maybe you’re one of them.
Negative people always are victims.. or “alleged” victims, should I say. The thing is, you can always be the victim.. if you want to. The negative people I know are ALWAYS the victims of the world. What happened is never their fault, it’s always someone else’s.
Sure, it’s way easier to simply treat yourself as a victim. After all it makes you feel good, since you’re not the problem. But is that really healthy? I’m not sure about that.
I believe that we always have a choice. Some people are just fooling themselves into thinking that they don’t, and view themselves as the victims not to confront the real problem – them. I could go on and on on this subject. I could tell you so many stories where, I “could have become a victim”. But I simply chose not to.
Once you admit something happened because of your own error or miscalculation.. it becomes easier in my opinion. Sure, some things just happen like that and you feel like you had no control on it – but I still believe we do have influence on things. Maybe you’re just viewing things the way you want to see them. If you’re the type of person I’m describing, that is.
..like to badmouth others
It’s so easy just to criticize, especially on today’s era. Internet has been made so easy of access that nearly anyone can use it.. without facing any consequences. In fact, internet has made the identification of negative people much easier.
You know, in real life, people don’t usually criticize others before them. They usually talk behind their back. But now, with the internet.. it’s SO easy to find negative comments about anything.
I’m not sure what people are trying to achieve by badmouthing others.. perhaps to feel better about themselves.
Instead of speaking ill of someone, why wouldn’t you praise them? It’s healthier.
..feed themselves with negative informations
OK. This is a big one.
I’ve already talked about it in my article “How To Be Positive All The Time“, but.. do not watch the news.
Negative people always feed themselves with negative informations. Want to know the easiest and surest way to becoming negative? Watch the news. If you want to become negative, then just do that because I think it’s just so powerful on the human mind..
How can you even hope to be positive if you become aware of everything that’s happening in the world?
These informations are like parasites that are eating you from the inside. Externally, you do not see any negative effect.. but I can assure you that on the inside.. it’s killing you.
Instead, put into your brain informations that are beneficial to your life. It’s crazy to me that people would intentionally put negative fuel into their body. Your mind is very important as to the way you see the world.. and if you put garbage in it, I can promise you you’ll not see only good things.
How was it?
I think it’s enough for now. I do hope that you were very attentive about what I said and that you didn’t fool yourself. Being negative is not a crime.. and acknowledging it is for your own good.
On the other hand, if you didn’t particulary think you were as described… good. Although I know that you also sometimes have those “dark” moments – I’m pretty sure we all have those. I think that what I’m going to say next will benefit you in some way. In fact, it’s a “trick” I learned a few days ago. It was just so powerful on me that I decided to share it with you.
No matter what you’ve been through, no matter how angry you feel.. I can guarantee you that this technique is powerful enough to eradicating these negative emotions. What’s more, it’s 100% natural and everyone can do it, no matter where you are.
Without further ado, let’s get straight into it.
The #1 Cure To Negative Emotions
I already kind of knew that thinking positive was a great cure to negativity. Like I said, what you focus on you feel. But a few days ago, my whole perception of the thing changed.
I had decided to get into meditation – by the way, that’s awesome!
I selected a YouTube video to help me meditate for the first time. Even if you’re not into meditation, you probably already know how it goes: you sit comfortably, you close your eyes and start focusing on your breathing – in fact I believe there are multiple ways to meditate but anyway that’s how I did it.
The instructor was helping me focusing, telling me what to do exactly (like focus on my breathing).
Suddenly, they said “put your hand on your heart, and be thankful.”
That’s when I clicked.
I was meditating… and was feeling grateful. Grateful for what? What I have, because I have a lot.
When I did.. “I” changed.
In a flash, I just felt so peaceful. I couldn’t even think about something negative, as I was too focused on being thankful.
It was at that time, that I realized:
Even when you feel horrible, and drenched in negativity.. the key is to be grateful. When you do that, everything else seems so unimportant.
It was really something, and if you never experienced it.. you probably don’t understand what I’m talking about. This feeling of peacefulness.. of fullfilment.. of happiness and joy. But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t experience it.
I’m not sure if the meditation or the relaxing music in the background were key factors as well.. but I assure you that when you focus on WHAT YOU HAVE (and not what you don’t have), your whole perception of life change. Also, what really helped me was to think about my future. What were my goals. With whom I want to fulfill them. When will my dream come true.
It’s a very life-changing experience, and one that should constantly be experienced.
My best advice to you is: when you struggle, when you feel negative, pathethic or at the bottom, just settle down..