Has finding inner happiness been something you’ve been struggling with your entire life? If so, you aren’t alone.
Although everyone seeks inner happiness, finding it is something that most people can’t manage to do. Why is that?
I believe that we have been conditionned all our lives to believe that things need to be more complicated than they are, and so we naturally tend to think that happiness too must be a state hard to reach.
Is that really true? No. In fact, I can make you happy in less than 5 minutes – or should I say, you can make you happy in less than 5 minutes.
In this article, I’ll go straigth to the point and share with you the only technique that I believe work when it comes to finding inner happiness. But before that, I want to share with you why the common beliefs around happiness are traps you should never fall into.
The Myth About Happiness
Unfortunately, the myth, or how I like to call it, ”the biggest lie” regarding happiness is a common held belief. Ask anyone in your surroudings to tell you what would make them happy, and I can assure that most people if not everyone will tell you that they need an X factor in their lives.
A factor X is anything that they need in their lives but don’t have in order to feel happy. In other words, we could call it their dreams and goals.
A few years ago, I also thought that I needed an external factor in my life that would bring me happiness. In fact, I thought that finding my soulmate would make me happy.
However, the fact of the matter is that human beings grow. Each time you will challenge yourself, surpass yourself and finally get what you want.. you will ask for more. If your let your happiness be dictated by your results, then you’ll never be happy as you’ll endlessly be after new goals.
In short, most people are chasing an illusion.
They believe that by achieving a certain outcome, they will be happy. However, once they achieve this outcome and that the law of familiarity will kick in, they will set another goal and delay inner happiness once more.
Unfortunately, this little game oftentime last forever… unless they find the right way to be happy.
Letting your results dictate your happiness is bad for two reasons:
1 – It makes you chase something that you will never fully grasp
2 – It will tell your brain that you need something more to be happy. In short, that you can’t be happy until you have this.
Once your brain starts believing this, it will do its best to reach happiness through achieving your goals. However, you will always set new goals and none of them will ever make you happy.
I remember when I was in school, I thought that I would be super happy when I’ll get out of it. Once I did, I felt happy… for a few weeks. Same thing when I started making a living working from home, I thought that this was going to make me happy but it sure didn’t.
I’ve fallen into the same trap, and you probably have too. This can change now, as soon as you decide to apply the best way that I found for finding inner happiness.
If achievement is not the way to go, what is the right way, then?
It’s nothing super fancy, really. In fact, you’ve probably known all along but simply decided that it couldn’t be the solution, as ”life is supposed to be hard”, right?
You don’t need a car, you don’t need a house and you don’t need a family. And you definitely don’t need to become a billionaire.
There is only one thing you need in order to be happy: to make a decision. The decision that from now on, you will be happy.
”Being rich and having all kinds of fancy stuff will make you happy” is a common misconception.
After all, there are plenty of people who are wealthy in the physical world, and poor in the spiritual one.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that ‘money doesn’t buy happiness’ and that you don’t need money to be happy. Would you be happy to see your family starving to death or incredibly sick? Of course not. To a certain extent, money is important. What I’m saying is that you don’t need to make a ton of money and have lamborginies to be happy.
Certainly, money can amplify happiness. But it does not create it.
The truth is, most people have the keys to finding inner happiness, but don’t know how to use it.
Happiness is a choice, and you can be happy the moment you decide it.
Not when other people or external factors will decide that you deserve to be happy: when you make the decision that from now on, you’ll be happy.
I understand that being happy in some situations might be challenging. We all have ups and downs, and no one is perfect. That’s why you must teach your brain and condition it each and every day.
What have worked wonders for me is to be grateful. You see, most people focus on what they don’t have. Instead, I decided that I would focus on what I did have. And, oh boy, how much do I have.
Although I have more than most people, would you believe me if I said to you that there was a time I was unhappy? It goes to prove that it’s not about how much you have, but rather about whether or not you can recognize what you do have.
I don’t know you, and I don’t know your life. However, I do know this: you and I are both lucky. Earlier, I talked about gratefulness. Here’s an example about how it works and what you could be gratefulr for: we are alive, we have money, we have health… we have so many things that we could be grateful for, yet we never are.
It’s so easy to take things for granted, but many people tend to forget that we could lose everything at any moment. Why wouldn’t you be happy for what you have right now? You have so much.
Whether it’s money – I’m not talking about millions, even just a little bit of money is enough -, people that love you and that you love around you, health, the ability to create your own future…
Although the concept of finding inner happiness may seem attractive, it doesn’t work that way. Happiness is not something that you find, but something that you create, and you can decide to create it at any moment.
You can wait until you’re rich, in love and fit to be happy… or you can be happy right now and achieve your goals at the same time.