Do you want to know 3 ways that you can create more passion in your relationship?
One of human beings’, if not all animals’ strongest urge is that of procreate. This desire, at the same time, led us to walk down the path of love. In today’s world, most relationships don’t come from the urge of procreate, as it used to be thousands of years ago, but became a way for two people who love each other to unite and become one.
Although most people aren’t aware of it, living a good and healthy relationships is a skill on its own.
It requires that you make sure both parties have their needs met, and that you fully live your life. Unfortunately, most people live life passively and wait for the problems to occur before even considering thinking about a possible solution.
As I’m doing a lot of research on the subject, I decided I would write an article about 3 powerful ways you can use to ensure your relationship stays on the right track year after year. It’s not rocket science, and yet, most people don’t even think about those things.
Let’s talk about 3 ways to create more passion in a relationship.
1 – Schedule in some time with your partner
I’m not talking about both of you lying around on the couch, watching TV. This is not what I mean by ‘spending time together’. You can be there physically, but not present spiritually, or emotionally.
Being fully with your partner is what it’s all about: there is no distraction whatsover, just the two of you in a room focusing on each other.
In a way, scheduling time is a way for both parties to have full attention. I believe that most people spend most of their time living passively with their partner, never allowing themselves to speak frankly. In fact, most people are afraid of opening up to their partner: because it means being vulnerable.
However, if you can’t be vulnerable with your partner, with whom can you?
There should be a – at least weekly – ritual in each couple to speak about everything regarding the relationship, the goods and the bads. It shouldn’t be a place to complain, but to make the relationship better.
2 – Ask questions to your partner
If I had to define it in one word, I would say that relationship is all about communication. After all, you’re not alone. If you’re not, then you must use a way to convey an information to the other person, and if you’re human, then talking is the only way to do so.
Unfortunately, most people don’t do that; or if they do, it’s when they had enough and just get all worked up. This is not good either.
Although I love to see relationships as a way for two spiritual beings to connect spiritually, changes can’t occur unless there is some level of communication.
The best way to do that is through asking questions. The right questions, that is.
Complaining to your soulmate won’t do any good, so a question such as ”Why did you become so numb” will only come across as an accusation and won’t help. Instead, questions should be used as a way to empower the relationship, and find a mutual agreement.
The most important thing is to stress the fact that everything can be shared in that intimate place.
There should be no judgment of any sort. After all, how can you expect someone to open up if they know that you’re going to judge and blame them? These questions should be viewed as a way to make the relationship better, so doesn’t the fact that there are things to say mean that the relationship can be better? Why wouldn’t you rejoice?
One other type of question you could use, which is not about how to improve the relationship by solving potential problems, but more about how to improve the relationship by focusing on the good, would be :
- ”What do you love about me?”
- ”What do you think makes our relationship so special?”
- ”What is one thing that makes me so special to you?”
Soppy? Maybe. Effective? Hell yes.
As I said, the primary goal about these questions aren’t to solve a problem, but to strenghten the relationship by demonstrating more love to your partner. In short, by focusing on the good.
Just like with everything in life, you could focus on the good, or the bad. Thinking of the good will remind you that no matter what challenges come up, you’ll overcome it.
3 – Eye Gaze
”The eyes are the mirror of the soul”, right?
It has been scientifically proven that gazing into someone’s eyes strengthen the bonds between you and that person.
Spending time with your partner where you both look at each other’s eyes will be greatly beneficial. Again, I’m not talking about ‘kinda looking’, but about deep, interested, curious eye gazing.
You don’t have to say anything. The power of this act does not come from your words, but from your look, from the connection that you establish with the other person.
Eye-gazing is my favorite technique to build rapport with my girlfriend. After all, eyes is from where sparks lights and tears flow.
There you have it! 3 ways to create more passion in your relationship! What I just shared with you is nothing extraordinary. Yet, most people don’t do it although it will make a huge difference in your relationship. Of course, the more often the better. It’s not about doing it once and forgetting it, just like everything else.
As you do it regularly, you’ll start noticing more love flowing in your relationship. Good. That’s a good place to start, but that’s nowhere close to the end. Building a strong relationship is like everything else in life, it requires effort and habit, but the payoff will immensely exceed your efforts. If you want to learn more about the process of making a relationship thrive, check out this article: ”29 Reasons Why Relationships Fail: The Most Common Mistakes”.